The top 6 benefits of authentic confidence

The top 6 benefits of authentic confidence

If you asked me to list the benefits of authentic confidence, we’d be here all day, in fact we’d be here all year. A much quicker question would be to ask, ‘what are the downsides to authentic confidence?’ because I genuinely cannot think of any. Case closed.

So, what I have done is pick out my top 6 benefits of authentic confidence so that we at least have something manageable to work with. If you’re interested in the others or want me to explore any in more detail, please do let me know as we’ve got a whole year of blogging ahead of us.

Number one: A sense of pride in who you are.

One of the best pieces of feedback I have ever received about my coaching included the line, “I am no longer trying to fit a square peg in a round hole. I am proud to be a square peg.” This continues to blow me away, is there a better thing to be able to give someone?

Self-acceptance is the third part of my four-part confidence model and is one of the most difficult parts of the process. We aren’t taught how love ourselves, all of ourselves, for exactly who we are, but mastery of this is lifechanging.

Number two: The ability to make time for yourself.

Boundaries are talked about a lot when it comes to confidence, wellbeing and self-care, and for a very good reason. As the old saying goes, ‘you cannot pour from an empty cup’, so taking care of yourself is a part of taking care of others.

This is all about energy and how you manage, restore, and the healthy levels of energy you need to function. The better able you are to do this, the more confident you will feel in your abilities and the more the more energy you will have for growth.

Number three: The belief that you have worth.

Self-worth and self-belief go hand in hand. Valuing yourself isn’t about thinking you are better than everyone else but understanding that you also have worth. And this isn’t based on what you do or what you earn, but simply for being you.

Once you understand this you will better be able to cheer for yourself, to treat yourself with kindness, to back yourself, and go to for the things you want in life. Knowing your worth will help you in all areas of life and create the basis for authentic confidence.

Number four: The courage to do what is right for you.

Moving scared and being courageous are huge parts of authentic confidence, as is making the right choices for you regardless of what other people might say, do, think, or feel. This can be a bit tricky if you’re used to pleasing people.

The trick is spending the time actually getting to know what is right for you, why it’s right for you, and the benefits of doing it, this makes it a whole lot easier to put these things at the top of your agenda. Nobody is going to do them for you.

Number five: The ability to check in with yourself.

Self-awareness is the second part of my four-part model and is closely linked to emotional intelligence. This focuses on our ability to understand how we feel without judgement and to respond accordingly with what we need.

This requires us to be comfortable enough to check in with ourselves, to ask ourselves questions around our thoughts, and to be able to challenge them if needed. Being able to do this for ourselves makes us better able to support others.

Number six: The tools to help yourself grow.

Self-care, self-awareness, self-acceptance, and self-compassion, these are my four pillars of building authentic confidence and resilience and have been proven to help people grow and develop personally and professionally.

If you’d like to learn more about these and to grow in confidence in 2023 with the support of myself and a group of likeminded individuals, I’d love to chat with you about my Growing Confident programme starting in March. Please email me on